Putting Doubts to Rest!

How do you close the book on doubts, how do you lay doubts to rest? A few days ago, I came home from a long day at work and had a detailed chat with my mother about recurring doubts I've been experiencing lately. Everyone handles doubts differently, some people like myself prefer to speak to their loved ones to gain a perspective or share some light on personal experiences. You can understand the term "sharing is caring", but rewind for a second, that doesn't mean we share all. Others prefer to keep their thoughts to themselves  and handle their issues the best way they know-how which can be a challenge at times, but that's not to say they can't overcome and move forward.

My doubts are starting a new role and questioning myself if I'm ready to take the plunge and start again, where am I going to be in the next year or even the year after that, am I doing the right thing by leaving my current position and is it the right position for me as I have another field I am passionate about.

I have come to realise it's perfectly normal to have these strong feelings of doubts and natural to admit them out loud. Confronting your fear or doubt is the first stage, the next stage is how to overcome the fear, self-doubt and rise above the problem. When I looked into the full description of doubts, according to google the word Doubts is a feeling of uncertainty or lack of conviction. It can also be an encouraging voice in your head which can awaken those thoughts and force you to address them. However, I've decided to  address my doubts and say them out loud.

The advice my mother gave me was very positive and straightforward, she said "if you show the doubt on your face, the new employer will think twice. You need to go in there and show what you can do, you have already done the hard part, you know your strengths, now it's time to challenge yourself further and expand your knowledge, at the end of the day you have gained a skill. Don't lose it, now is the time to seize the opportunity you have been given".

After the long chat, I felt better and realised I allowed my self-doubt to take over my emotions and instead I should be praising the opportunity that has been given to me, so I said NO, NO, NO, enough is enough. All you can do is your best and I finally feel that I'm making the right decision by starting a new position. Thinking about what is going to happen in a year's time is too far, at this point, it's best to concentrate on what's happening now in front of me and in terms of another field I am passionate about, I've decided to enrol myself into an online course in the subject to gain an inside view of what it entails. 

I've always been a firm believer in pursuing research first before you tackle the project. From what I have mentioned, I feel I have put my doubts to bed and can finally move forward. Don't get me wrong the inner voices may return, but I believe there is a positive outcome which will allow you to change those doubts into positive solutions.